MARCH 19, 2012 7:11AM
Has Joanna Coles & Marie Claire Declared War On Blacks, Asians & Latinas Marrying White Men?
Has Joanna Coles & Marie Claire Declared War On Blacks, Asians & Latinas Marrying White Men? is a post from: Acts of Faith In Love & Life
Why Did Hearst Publishing Sign Off On This?
The April 2012 issue of Marie Claire features a series on the role race plays in relationships titled, “Love & Race”.
It’s not online yet, so I read a physical copy. While it seems positive
and all-inclusive, reading between the lines there’s an undercurrent of
passive-aggressive fear and anger that breaks through its PC veneer. Is
there some unresolved personal issue in the life of Editor-In-Chief
Joanna Coles? Or is this a calculated pre-emptive strike on behalf of
white women marking what they view as their territory? Somebody at Marie
Claire is running scared the best white men are being poached by non-white women because they keep discouraging it!
I’m
sure they’re familiar with studies discussing how marriage rates
between Black Women/White Men are rising and how those unions tend to be
more stable than same race couplings. I’m sure they see the increase in
advertising that features Black Women/White Men as well because
magazines rely on ad sales for revenue.
Here’s
the thing that has me scratching my head. Marie Claire’s target
demographic is not Black Women. They don’t put us on their covers – and
no Beyonce (who lists her heritage as French, Native American &
throws in African American last in her current Loreal ad does not
represent proud-to-be-black women like me) doesn’t count. Does Marie
Claire rep for Asians? Latinas fare the best – well the whiter-skinned
ones do – but that’s the same in Spanish-oriented media as well.
So,
for a fashion magazine (who dabbles with social commentary) to focus so
much attention on whether Black Women get married (and to whom) when
they ignore them otherwise is more than a little suspicious. Well,
actually there’s been a few “Third World Victim” stories. But they
decided to throw Latina and Asian women under the bus as well.
It’s obviously a concern. In my post Are Asian Women Trophy Wives Or Smart At Picking Quality Husbands, I was responding to a 2009 Marie Claire article
that indicated some white women were none too pleased about the number
of Asian women married to wealthy white men. The magazine keeps trying
to belittle what are often personal preferences as ‘evil’ fetishes.
Their bait and switch is to use Asian women writers to do the ratchet
job. Is liking blonde hair a fetish? Thinness? Height? Clearly if a
woman uses common sense and listens to a man describe his intentions,
she can tell rather quickly whether to keep or toss him.
This
time they made it much more obvious. They used a Vietnamese-American
writer to talk about how de evil white menz are so horrible with their
disgusting pornography influences, stripper fantasies and Asian
fetishes. It has chased her right back into the arms of Asian men where
she belongs.
Not
to be outdone, they also used a Mexican-American writer to tell the
story of how her father instructed her to only marry a [non-Latino]
white male. You see her dad wanted her to have a better life. Also, she
and her friends were focused on emulating JLo’s character in the movie Maid in Manhattan
where bagging a rich white man was the message. Funny, I thought it was
about a woman who believed in herself enough to improve her career and
life prospects first, then attracted a compatible mate.
Did this writer meet her Gringo Prince?
No, she married and divorced an aspiring musician and wandered
aimlessly as a singleton for a decade because neither she nor the Fetish
Whisperer knew how to evaluate men and date with a purpose in the first
place. Eventually, she did find her compatible mate. Three guesses
about his heritage. I won’t keep you in suspense. Her husband is Mexican
of course!
The
most egregious and obvious Marie Claire hit job is against Black Women.
They use one never-married woman to tell other Black Women to ignore
the stats on the 73% (she’s using old stats when it was a mere 70%)
NEVER MARRIED rates by mocking them because she has a man (NOT HER
HUSBAND) laid up in bed next to her. Because “eventually most BW get
married at least once” according to some hack she called.
They
regurgitated a previously published article from Helena Andrews that
ignores basic reasoning to support idiocy. I didn’t comment after the
first infraction, but it’s time to nip this in the bud. In case you’re
wondering who this person is, she’s a writer but more importantly she’s a
representative from Blackistan
used for the purpose of subterfuge and reinforcing its anti-Black Woman
practices. The thing about these women is no matter how educated,
articulate or put together they may seem they are still spouting the
same message. The message of death.
I’m
not going to argue semantics about the CDC report on the NEVER-MARRIED
rates for Black Women in this country. We have covered every angle on
this topic since I first wrote about it in 2009. As one of the core
Black Women Empowerment bloggers we can point to the success
in disseminating its social justice message across the strata based on
the reaction from certain quarters. They are hell-bent on thwarting
Black Women in the marriage realm. Obviously, we’re speaking of QUALITY
marriages. Men who provide, protect, problem-solve and produce. Men who
are devoted to their families and support their communities are an
obvious ASSET.
The
NEVER-MARRIED rates coincide with the OUT OF WEDLOCK rates. There are
enough studies tying poverty, criminality and other negative
consequences for those children that show these circumstances make what
is already a challenge that much more difficult. Especially when you
take into consideration the lack of family and community infrastructure
specific to Black Women. That doesn’t mean they can’t be overcome, but
why be handicapped unnecessarily?
If,
as a woman dating a black man you have to state he doesn’t have OOW
kids, hasn’t been to jail, etc. it means the options were very limited
to begin with because that’s ABNORMAL behavior. Plus, that still doesn’t
make this man a HIGH QUALITY mate. When you evaluate men you start from the top,
not the gutter. Did the thought occur to Andrews trying to refute stats
that state the MAJORITY never marries because the percentage adjusts
based on age doesn’t change the outcome. Especially when at 31, she fits
the parameters because she still isn’t MARRIED.
Don’t most folks getting married for the FIRST time consider CHILDREN as an option? Women have a time limit on reproduction.
Women and men who WAIT run the chance of carrying way more baggage into
a marriage. Unless you’re someone who truly enjoys single-hood and
turned down proposals because you have exacting standards, I don’t think
it’s in a woman’s best interests to buy into the sex without commitment lifestyle. It benefits men and breeds contempt for long-term relationships.
In
discussing lifestyle strategies for Black Women, we’ve analyzed why
they are trained to respond in ways that override basic sense. The
advantages to putting your best foot forward, using femininity and
taking notes from the Asian Woman Marriage Playbook
to quietly position yourself in securing a spouse defies such
indoctrination. The level of caliber varies with each individual woman.
The
overarching message with this multiple page propaganda piece: Know your
place! Stick to your own kind. Oh..and just in case you’re considering
dating them – white men suck. Who benefits from promoting this message?
I
don’t appreciate the one-sided pot-shots from a small number of
selfish, greedy women who like petulant five-year olds focus on the one
ball in the playground unavailable when they’ve got a well-stocked bin
of toys they ignore. I mean if you don’t want white men because they’re so ‘horrible’ why do you care who they date and marry?
I’d like to see if more BW are willing to strategically be allies
the way the non-black wives of the wealthier black men are to their
groups. There are already PLENTY Black Wives married to powerful men and
more are positioning themselves. They’re not online discussing it!
Marie Claire wouldn’t keep bringing this subject if it didn’t represent
the interests of some white women to express their growing realization that Black Women are their competition, too.
I believe in an abundant universe.
There’s enough love for all of us. One of the core messages in this
forum is breaking down the root of and continued support for destroying
Black Women and children within the black community aka Blackistan. They can remove themselves from harmful people, places and practices. There are plenty of allies and opportunities.
Y’all
know white women (Asian, Latina, etc.) can always scrounge up a black
guy (whose entire self-worth is tied to his member, getting any woman
who isn’t black and producing white-skinned offspring), but the rule is
once you break him in, you have to keep him.
Don’t worry white men are and will remain the white woman’s greatest ally. Their continued dominance requires your
protection and elevation. You can compete against them, fight them and
scream about how oppressed you are but your fathers, brothers, cousins,
etc. are still looking out for you. If you want to know what real
denigration looks like compare your group’s status with that of Black
Women.
White
men who choose to marry interracially don’t typically trash white
women. That would be a huge red flag and predictor of a low-quality man.
As one blog reader mentioned on the AOFB Facebook Page,
“White men don’t say they won’t do ‘pale’ butts like some rapper did
about Black Women”. Our circumstances are apples and oranges.
How many times have we discussed how you have to focus on what you want instead of lack and negativity? Any woman seeking a compatible mate must focus on values, not race
as a prime indicator. This article would deny a woman’s ability to
develop as a person, avoid stereotyping and a limited perspective.
So
what if the media doesn’t like reporting on White Men/Black Women
pairings – that’s okay. More are dating and marrying out. I’m beginning
to think the lowest-profile may be the way to go, but as we’ve discussed
a picture speaks volumes. If you’re married to the studio head, CEO,
uber-Producer or even a slew of everyday Joes as long as you are living
well, you are in a better position to effect change from behind the
scenes than cyber-protests or trying to encourage more participation
from self-hating blacks. It doesn’t have to be an either/or situation.
This evokes an archived conversation we had about Hipster Racists and Hipster Misogynists.
I would have liked to read some of the featured interracial couples
photographed tell their stories instead of this sucker-punch of
stupidity, but “Love & Race” should be renamed Not So Subtle Attempt By White Women At Taking Out The Competition.
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